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		<title>One of those days&#8230;</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 23 Feb 2012 15:14:15 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Where i wouldn&#8217;t have gotten out of bed if i didn&#8217;t have to, and am literally thanking God for the rogue can of diet coke i found in the fridge. Yep, that sort of day.<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=myendlessreasons.wordpress.com&amp;blog=29417320&amp;post=282&amp;subd=myendlessreasons&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Where i wouldn&#8217;t have gotten out of bed if i didn&#8217;t have to, and am literally thanking God for the rogue can of diet coke i found in the fridge.</p>
<p>Yep, that sort of day.</p>
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		<title>A problem without a name.</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 21 Feb 2012 14:21:00 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[My biggest issue right now is so far nameless.  Not authenticity, exactly, but here&#8217;s the gist.  What i say does not match how i say it.  He laughs and says he feels calm when i say &#8220;things are crazy&#8221;.  My tone is totally flat.  My &#8220;things are crazy&#8221; is comparable to commenting on the weather.  [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=myendlessreasons.wordpress.com&amp;blog=29417320&amp;post=279&amp;subd=myendlessreasons&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>My biggest issue right now is so far nameless.  Not authenticity, exactly, but here&#8217;s the gist.  What i say does not match how i say it.  He laughs and says he feels calm when i say &#8220;things are crazy&#8221;.  My tone is totally flat.  My &#8220;things are crazy&#8221; is comparable to commenting on the weather.  To say &#8220;things are crazy&#8221; in an appropriate (slightly exasperated, frustrated) tone is damn near impossible.  My brain says, um, not a chance.  So, as he says &#8220;off with your head&#8221;&#8230; as in, what does the rest of you say&#8230; Which is almost impossible to answer.  Not that i&#8217;m not trying, it&#8217;s that there&#8217;s a huge block between my brain and my body. (That&#8217;s what happens when your brain destroys your body for the better part of a decade, i suppose).  That&#8217;s going to be a lot of work.</p>
<p>Despite the fact i&#8217;ve been in therapy&#8230; this would be the 4th/5th time, depending on how you count&#8230; i still am terrible about it.  Nervous, always drawing a blank.  Ten minutes after i leave i come up w/ all these wonderful things to say&#8230; All the things i was planning to mention.  So frustrating&#8230;  My less than brilliant self says to quit, because i really should have this figured out by now&#8230; Until i was reminded that having realizations out of session is valid too, and that i&#8217;m not as bad at this as i feel&#8230;   i&#8217;m still unable to tolerate almost any risk, despite his best efforts.</p>
<p>Meh, i don&#8217;t really care if this makes any sense at all.  Writing it down at least helps me remember.  Maybe next time i&#8217;ll actually (remember and) say all the things i want to.</p>
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		<title>Unusual, probably.</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 18 Feb 2012 02:27:57 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[(a vaguely accurate remembrance of therapy) him:  what would feel out of control in this context? me: sobbing uncontrollably. but, i don&#8217;t have anything to sob about, so i should be fine. him:  Ah hahaha&#8230; oh no, you do. (most people probably don&#8217;t get laughed at in therapy, but i&#8217;m not offended, he&#8217;s probably calling [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=myendlessreasons.wordpress.com&amp;blog=29417320&amp;post=277&amp;subd=myendlessreasons&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>(a vaguely accurate remembrance of therapy)</p>
<p>him:  what would feel out of control in this context?</p>
<p>me: sobbing uncontrollably. but, i don&#8217;t have anything to sob about, so i should be fine.</p>
<p>him:  Ah hahaha&#8230; oh no, you do.</p>
<p>(most people probably don&#8217;t get laughed at in therapy, but i&#8217;m not offended, he&#8217;s probably calling my bluff. i find it relatively amusing, really.)</p>
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		<title>Finding that everything..</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 12 Feb 2012 21:19:28 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Everything seems amplified.  The little things are frustrating (and exhausting)&#8230; the big things are great, the days seem long and the nights far too short, regardless of the fact that i&#8217;m sleeping a ton.  Struggling to even get off the couch most days&#8230; so unmotivated.<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=myendlessreasons.wordpress.com&amp;blog=29417320&amp;post=271&amp;subd=myendlessreasons&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Everything seems amplified.  The little things are frustrating (and exhausting)&#8230; the big things are great, the days seem long and the nights far too short, regardless of the fact that i&#8217;m sleeping a ton.  Struggling to even get off the couch most days&#8230; so unmotivated.</p>
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		<title>I Need To, Like, Throw a Cup</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 10 Feb 2012 02:30:12 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Reblogged from Does My Bum Look Big In This?: In the room with the counsellor I was crying (as you do) and I was all tensed up and trying so hard not to cry, and I said in that awkward silence as she was watching me: “Sorry, I’m trying not to cry.” As if the [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=myendlessreasons.wordpress.com&amp;blog=29417320&amp;post=269&amp;subd=myendlessreasons&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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In the room with the counsellor I was crying (as you do) and I was all tensed up and trying so hard not to cry, and I said in that awkward silence as she was watching me: “Sorry, I’m trying not to cry.” As if the deep breaths and frowning wasn’t an indication. And she had this pained expression on her face. She looked like she was really worried and I thought this poor woman, I bet she has to go home to a husband and screaming kids and she’s stressed out enough without me crying after 15 minutes &hellip;
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Not sure how i missed this for 3 and a half days.
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		<title>Oh&#8230; that&#8230;</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 08 Feb 2012 00:13:52 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Had a crazy episode in therapy today.  This has happened (plentifully) in the past, but this was the first time in almost 5 years.  Seems that when stress gets really high, i shut down.  Can&#8217;t talk&#8230; today was more of attempting to ward off a panic attack.  And obviously it disrupted the hour, but apparently [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=myendlessreasons.wordpress.com&amp;blog=29417320&amp;post=266&amp;subd=myendlessreasons&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Had a crazy episode in therapy today.  This has happened (plentifully) in the past, but this was the first time in almost 5 years.  Seems that when stress gets really high, i shut down.  Can&#8217;t talk&#8230; today was more of attempting to ward off a panic attack.  And obviously it disrupted the hour, but apparently he didn&#8217;t mind.  This flies in the face of what i&#8217;m used to&#8230; that my shutting down is manipulative and a waste of time.  The good newsis that i eventually came around and was able to at least minimally process it.</p>
<p>Sometimes when strange things happen i don&#8217;t know what to think&#8230; And that&#8217;s not a favorite feeling of mine.</p>
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		<title>Wednesday Challenge: Tolerating the middle</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Reblogged from Overcoming Self-Destruction: It would seem that we seem so surprised when we have reasonable, expectable and human responses to situations in our lives. And people who use self-destructive behaviors to cope, seem to have an intolerance to their own experiences, reactions and feelings. As humans, we often feel that life is random, yet [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=myendlessreasons.wordpress.com&amp;blog=29417320&amp;post=265&amp;subd=myendlessreasons&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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It would seem that we seem so surprised when we have reasonable, expectable and human responses to situations in our lives. And people who use self-destructive behaviors to cope, seem to have an intolerance to their own experiences, reactions and feelings. As humans, we often feel that life is random, yet if we think from DATA gathered in our lives, there is less randomness than we think. For those of you who have been struggling with self-destructiveness, self-injury, disordered eating and high risk &hellip;
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		<title>Flip flop</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Things went from good feelings, light conversations&#8230; to terrible and dysfunctional in a few days.  The food element has to stay well, but everything else is suffering.<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=myendlessreasons.wordpress.com&amp;blog=29417320&amp;post=262&amp;subd=myendlessreasons&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Things went from good feelings, light conversations&#8230; to terrible and dysfunctional in a few days.  The food element has to stay well, but everything else is suffering.</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[This has been on my mind for the last few weeks, funny when you find things that are right in line.  Sometimes it seems that when i have time for my mind to wander things tend to get negative (and in a hurry), and i wonder if i could find something to fill that time&#8230; &#160; Should leaders have hobbies? from [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=myendlessreasons.wordpress.com&amp;blog=29417320&amp;post=260&amp;subd=myendlessreasons&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>This has been on my mind for the last few weeks, funny when you find things that are right in line.  Sometimes it seems that when i have time for my mind to wander things tend to get negative (and in a hurry), and i wonder if i could find something to fill that time&#8230;</p>
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<p><a href="http://s154.photobucket.com/albums/s268/Don-X/Ronald%20Reagan%20Library%20archived%20Jeep%20photos/?action=view&amp;current=PresidentReaganClearingBrushWithHis.jpg" target="_blank"><img src="http://i154.photobucket.com/albums/s268/Don-X/Ronald%20Reagan%20Library%20archived%20Jeep%20photos/PresidentReaganClearingBrushWithHis.jpg" alt="President Reagan clearing brush on his ranch." width="291" height="192" border="0" /></a>I’ve always watched leaders in action. I am drawn to those who can take adverse circumstances, rally dissonant voices/people together, and foster a general consensus to lead forward. Most leaders have strong drive, intense focus, and work extra hard to accomplish tasks.</p>
<p>I remember watching Ronald Reagan during my teenage years and I was always fascinated that he spent much of his downtime on his ranch … clearing brush. Why would the most powerful person in the world choose to do one of more mundane tasks over and over? And on purpose?</p>
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<p>Last week, as I drove 5 miles (8 km) one way to meet the UPS delivery truck, I reflected on the role of hobbies in my life. And that I not only enjoyed them, but I needed them. Not useless activity that is the latest fad, but that they play a stabilizing role for my work. And I’ve seen this to be true in other leaders’ lives.</p>
<p>I pulled into the parking lot and the big brown UPS truck pulled in shortly thereafter and soon a box that said “FRAGILE: Live Tropical Fish” was in my car and I quickly drove it back home. <a href="http://www.apistogramma.com/forum/showthread.php?7160-Greetings-from-Cameroon/page2" target="_blank"><img title="moliwe_stream" src="http://www.terrylinhart.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/moliwe_stream1.jpg" alt="" width="323" height="242" /></a>In the box were 2 cichlids from a stream near Moliwe Cameroon (I think the very one in this picture, the only place <em>in the world </em>that you can find this fish) and they were about to become the ‘stars of the show’ in a nice 30 gallon aquarium in my basement. And if they produce a lot of babies, I’ll be even happier. (There are quite a few folks in ministry leadership who find fishkeeping to be nice opposite from working with teens!)</p>
<p>I think hobbies are important. I enjoy them. But some my say the scattered interests actually detract from the mission of leadership. And, I would add a caveat that not everything we do (i.e. being a sports fan) would I consider a hobby. I’ve grown I realize that I need to have something that is ‘opposite’ of my work and productiveness and something that adds to my life, not serves as an escape (and I will risk here and say going to the movies is more of an escape than a hobby). As long as charity (and tithing) comes first, a commonsense approach )(and please read that fiscally) to a hobby can have an amazingly important effect in our lives.</p>
<p>I think there are three types of hobbies that are helpful to leaders (and by leaders, I include all sorts – teachers, managers, supervisors). And, though I haven’t done or looked at any research, it seems healthy to have all three.</p>
<p><strong>1. PHYSICAL HOBBIES</strong>. The most important hobby is one that involves <em>exercise</em> … not sitting or eating (I can hear some of you saying that ‘eating out’ is a hobby). This type of hobby involves staying in shape – running, tennis, walking, basketball, biking, swimming, and workouts like P90X and <a href="http://crossfit.com/" target="_blank">CrossFit</a> (my recommendation!) are excellent options. You may be saying, “Hey wait a minute… exercise seems like work more than a hobby!” Well, ok, I may have stretched it a bit… but let’s include it because it’s an important component in our lives and <a href="http://michaelhyatt.com/why-sitting-is-killing-you.html" target="_blank">sitting around</a> (check out that link) isn’t helping us. I’ll say more on exercise after the list.</p>
<p><strong>2. MENTAL HOBBIES.</strong> This type of hobby invigorates your mind as you become an ‘expert’ in a particular field. This is what <a href="http://www.gsas.org/Articles/1997/P-t-moliwe.html" target="_blank">fishkeeping</a> is for me. I get to creatively design and decorate tanks, problem solve and study, and I love the <a href="http://www.fishchannel.com/" target="_blank">science</a>. Other hobbies serve the same purpose. I know that a grieving father who is also a <em>legendary </em>youth worker said that it was his immersion into fantasy baseball as a hobby that helped him cope for those two years after his son’s death.</p>
<p>I have a friend who has become one of the most prominent birders in his region. A prominent global youth worker, he can be found on Monday’s standing still alongside some wetland or atop some mountain waiting to see a bird he’s never seen before. His new-found hobby has had a strikingly positive effect on his leadership, and his family would say it has positively changed his parenting and personality.</p>
<p>It’s worth stopping to note that a good and helpful hobby gets us doing something completely opposite of our work, gets us out of the house, and makes us active. So, I have friends who chase storms, go hunting, go sailing, camping, hiking, skiing (water or snow), or many others.</p>
<p><strong>3. CRAFTY HOBBIES. </strong> The third type of hobbies involve working with your hands. Many of the older Christian leaders I admire had woodworking shops. I have some woodworking tools, but I lack some serious skills in finish work, so I’m relegated to grunt projects. Some leaders like to fish (I guess we’ll include this) and others enjoy gardening and yard work. What I like about these last three is that they get people out into natural settings and active.</p>
<p>We have a big yard and Kelly and I planted over 1000 tree and bushes on our 3 acres here. Sometimes when I’m mowing the lawn, or clearing brush while swatting mosquitoes, I don’t always find it ‘fun.’ But I need to do it. I need a place where I work with my hands and nothing that I do matters to anyone else. But, when I’m done and the yard is green and well-trimmed (and looks good in May/June), I find myself invigorated … and full of work-related creative ideas that I had been mulling over while working. In fact, I’m surprised how often I begin a brainstorming meeting with the phrase, “While I was mowing, I was thinking…” (One of my <a href="http://www.terrylinhart.com/lessons-from-the-mulch-pile-repost/" target="_blank">most popular posts involved lessons learned from our mulch pile</a>).</p>
<p><strong>Get a bike?</strong></p>
<p>I remember a prominent leader once bragging in his middle years about how he had landscaped his whole yard so that he didn’t have to mow any more… and he could then be more productive in his work. Less than 10 years later he bought the family farm of 400+ acres and now he enjoys driving around the woods and fields on his four-wheeler. And he’s more productive now than ever.</p>
<p>If you wanted to find a hobby that hit all three, I think biking would be the one to pick. It’s not ‘crafty’, but it’s one of the most recommended hobbies/activities by doctors to patients who struggle with depressed symptoms, but aren’t depressed.</p>
<p>As I travel the world I am reminded at how joy-less American culture can be by comparison. Not always. But often. And that what we take joy in (shopping, eating, or self-entertaining) isn’t naturally healthy for us.</p>
<p>I am going to explore this more because I think we overlook many areas of Scripture where faithful people please God by living faithful ‘everyday’ lives. But, clearly not everyone will see hobbies as positive and God-honoring, as <a href="http://www.openbible.info/topics/hobbies" target="_blank">this list of verses suggests</a>. I think we can be quite selective when we look at hobbies (one of the gifts of the Spirit is <a href="http://www.cyberspaceministry.org/Services/Gifts/eng/eng-craf.html" target="_blank">craftsmanship</a>). I do remember when Dr. Jay Kesler led a college Bible study that focused on a theology of play, perhaps developed from <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Theology-play-Jurgen-Moltmann/dp/0060659025" target="_blank">Moltmann’s book</a> (I wrote about <a href="http://www.terrylinhart.com/the-role-of-play-in-youth-ministry/" target="_blank">play’s role in youth ministry here, </a>as has <a href="http://pomomusings.com/2009/05/05/theology-of-play/" target="_blank">Adam Walker Cleaveland here</a>). More on that later.</p>
<p><strong>What are your hobbies? What role have they played in your life and leadership over the years? Do you think they’re important or a distraction?</strong></p>
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<p>I’ve always watched leaders in action. I am drawn to those who can take adverse circumstances, rally dissonant voices/people together, and foster a general consensus to lead forward. Most leaders have strong drive, intense focus, and work extra hard to accomplish tasks.</p>
<p>I remember watching Ronald Reagan during my teenage years and I was always fascinated that he spent much of his downtime on his ranch … clearing brush. Why would the most powerful person in the world choose to do one of more mundane tasks over and over? And on purpose?</p>
<p>Last week, as I drove 5 miles (8 km) one way to meet the UPS delivery truck, I reflected on the role of hobbies in my life. And that I not only enjoyed them, but I needed them. Not useless activity that is the latest fad, but that they play a stabilizing role for my work. And I’ve seen this to be true in other leaders’ lives.</p>
<p>I pulled into the parking lot and the big brown UPS truck pulled in shortly thereafter and soon a box that said “FRAGILE: Live Tropical Fish” was in my car and I quickly drove it back home. In the box were 2 cichlids from a stream near Moliwe Cameroon (I think the very one in this picture, the only place <em>in the world </em>that you can find this fish) and they were about to become the ‘stars of the show’ in a nice 30 gallon aquarium in my basement. And if they produce a lot of babies, I’ll be even happier. (There are quite a few folks in ministry leadership who find fishkeeping to be nice opposite from working with teens!)</p>
<p>I think hobbies are important. I enjoy them. But some my say the scattered interests actually detract from the mission of leadership. And, I would add a caveat that not everything we do (i.e. being a sports fan) would I consider a hobby. I’ve grown I realize that I need to have something that is ‘opposite’ of my work and productiveness and something that adds to my life, not serves as an escape (and I will risk here and say going to the movies is more of an escape than a hobby). As long as charity (and tithing) comes first, a commonsense approach )(and please read that fiscally) to a hobby can have an amazingly important effect in our lives.</p>
<p>I think there are three types of hobbies that are helpful to leaders (and by leaders, I include all sorts – teachers, managers, supervisors). And, though I haven’t done or looked at any research, it seems healthy to have all three.</p>
<p><strong>1. PHYSICAL HOBBIES</strong>. The most important hobby is one that involves <em>exercise</em> … not sitting or eating (I can hear some of you saying that ‘eating out’ is a hobby). This type of hobby involves staying in shape – running, tennis, walking, basketball, biking, swimming, and workouts like P90X and <a href="http://crossfit.com/" target="_blank">CrossFit</a> (my recommendation!) are excellent options. You may be saying, “Hey wait a minute… exercise seems like work more than a hobby!” Well, ok, I may have stretched it a bit… but let’s include it because it’s an important component in our lives and <a href="http://michaelhyatt.com/why-sitting-is-killing-you.html" target="_blank">sitting around</a> (check out that link) isn’t helping us. I’ll say more on exercise after the list.</p>
<p><strong>2. MENTAL HOBBIES.</strong> This type of hobby invigorates your mind as you become an ‘expert’ in a particular field. This is what <a href="http://www.gsas.org/Articles/1997/P-t-moliwe.html" target="_blank">fishkeeping</a> is for me. I get to creatively design and decorate tanks, problem solve and study, and I love the <a href="http://www.fishchannel.com/" target="_blank">science</a>. Other hobbies serve the same purpose. I know that a grieving father who is also a <em>legendary </em>youth worker said that it was his immersion into fantasy baseball as a hobby that helped him cope for those two years after his son’s death.</p>
<p>I have a friend who has become one of the most prominent birders in his region. A prominent global youth worker, he can be found on Monday’s standing still alongside some wetland or atop some mountain waiting to see a bird he’s never seen before. His new-found hobby has had a strikingly positive effect on his leadership, and his family would say it has positively changed his parenting and personality.</p>
<p>It’s worth stopping to note that a good and helpful hobby gets us doing something completely opposite of our work, gets us out of the house, and makes us active. So, I have friends who chase storms, go hunting, go sailing, camping, hiking, skiing (water or snow), or many others.</p>
<p><strong>3. CRAFTY HOBBIES. </strong> The third type of hobbies involve working with your hands. Many of the older Christian leaders I admire had woodworking shops. I have some woodworking tools, but I lack some serious skills in finish work, so I’m relegated to grunt projects. Some leaders like to fish (I guess we’ll include this) and others enjoy gardening and yard work. What I like about these last three is that they get people out into natural settings and active.</p>
<p>We have a big yard and Kelly and I planted over 1000 tree and bushes on our 3 acres here. Sometimes when I’m mowing the lawn, or clearing brush while swatting mosquitoes, I don’t always find it ‘fun.’ But I need to do it. I need a place where I work with my hands and nothing that I do matters to anyone else. But, when I’m done and the yard is green and well-trimmed (and looks good in May/June), I find myself invigorated … and full of work-related creative ideas that I had been mulling over while working. In fact, I’m surprised how often I begin a brainstorming meeting with the phrase, “While I was mowing, I was thinking…” (One of my <a href="http://www.terrylinhart.com/lessons-from-the-mulch-pile-repost/" target="_blank">most popular posts involved lessons learned from our mulch pile</a>).</p>
<p><strong>Get a bike?</strong></p>
<p>I remember a prominent leader once bragging in his middle years about how he had landscaped his whole yard so that he didn’t have to mow any more… and he could then be more productive in his work. Less than 10 years later he bought the family farm of 400+ acres and now he enjoys driving around the woods and fields on his four-wheeler. And he’s more productive now than ever.</p>
<p>If you wanted to find a hobby that hit all three, I think biking would be the one to pick. It’s not ‘crafty’, but it’s one of the most recommended hobbies/activities by doctors to patients who struggle with depressed symptoms, but aren’t depressed.</p>
<p>As I travel the world I am reminded at how joy-less American culture can be by comparison. Not always. But often. And that what we take joy in (shopping, eating, or self-entertaining) isn’t naturally healthy for us.</p>
<p>I am going to explore this more because I think we overlook many areas of Scripture where faithful people please God by living faithful ‘everyday’ lives. But, clearly not everyone will see hobbies as positive and God-honoring, as <a href="http://www.openbible.info/topics/hobbies" target="_blank">this list of verses suggests</a>. I think we can be quite selective when we look at hobbies (one of the gifts of the Spirit is <a href="http://www.cyberspaceministry.org/Services/Gifts/eng/eng-craf.html" target="_blank">craftsmanship</a>). I do remember when Dr. Jay Kesler led a college Bible study that focused on a theology of play, perhaps developed from <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Theology-play-Jurgen-Moltmann/dp/0060659025" target="_blank">Moltmann’s book</a> (I wrote about <a href="http://www.terrylinhart.com/the-role-of-play-in-youth-ministry/" target="_blank">play’s role in youth ministry here, </a>as has <a href="http://pomomusings.com/2009/05/05/theology-of-play/" target="_blank">Adam Walker Cleaveland here</a>). More on that later.</p>
<p><strong>What are your hobbies? What role have they played in your life and leadership over the years? Do you think they’re important or a distraction? </strong></p>
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